Grit depends on hope that you have the power to improve things. Hope sustains passion by giving optimism that one day you can achieve your goals, and thus they’re worth holding for long periods of time. Hope sustains perseverance by encouraging thinking about how to overcome setbacks, rather than just accepting them as permanent.
In a classic experiment, scientists Seligman and Maier split dogs into two groups. In one group, the dog is put in a cage and is shocked at random times. If the dog pushes against a panel at the front of the cage, the shock ends early. After 64 shocks, the pain ends. In the other group, there is no panel that ceases the shocks.
The next day, the dog is put into a box with a divider leading to another box partition. The shock is now announced with a warning tone, so the dog has a chance to react. There is not a difference in behavior. Nearly all the dogs who had control over the shocks learn to jump over the wall and escape the shocks. Of the dogs who originally had no control over the shocks, only 1/3 of the dogs who had no control escape – the other 2/3 simply lay down and wait for the shocks to end.
This concept is called learned helplessness. Suffering without the belief of control habitually leads to depression symptoms, lack of concentration, and mood disorders. It can feel like all is lost, and there is no solution to your problems.
The antithesis to learned helplessness is learned optimism. Optimists tend to explain their suffering with temporary and specific causes, while pessimists seek permanent and broad causes.
For example, consider the prompt of "you can’t get all the work done that others expect of you. Imagine one major cause for this event."
Addressing specific and temporary causes is a part of cognitive behavioral therapy. If you keep searching for solutions to your problems, you at least have a chance of solving them. If you stop looking, you have zero chance.
"Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right." – Henry Ford
A similar concept is the growth mindset, that intelligence can be trained and is not innate.
To consider whether you have a growth mindset, see how much you agree with these statements:
If you disagreed with the first two and agreed with the last two, then you have more of a growth mindset.
A growth mindset increases grit and perseverance – if you hit an obstacle, you don’t attribute it to permanent personal traits. You instead believe you have the capacity to improve, no matter what you do. In contrast, with a fixed mindset, you think that you failed at something because you simply don’t have it in you and you’ll never have it – so why keep trying?
A surprising finding: adolescents change their IQs from adolescence to adulthood. This may be a special event in puberty, but it also suggests that our brains are plastic and can be rewired.
What evidence shows the benefits of optimism and growth mindset?
Optimists are less likely to suffer from depression and anxiety, tend to earn higher grades, stay healthier, are twice as likely to stay in their jobs, and sell 25% more than pessimists. In a study of Teach for America teachers, optimistic teachers were grittier and happier, and they led to higher achievements for their students.
Growth mindset students are grittier, earn higher grades, and are more likely to persist through college. Employees in growth-mindset cultures (where employees were developed, rather than focusing on the top performers) were 47% more likely to say colleagues are trustworthy, 49% more likely to say their company fosters innovation, and 65% to say their company supports risk-taking.
Both optimism/pessimism and growth/fixed mindset can be self-reinforcing in vicious cycles or virtuous cycles.
Negatively, if you believe your skills have hit their permanent limits, and you believe life’s problems are caused by those limits, you are less likely to overcome roadblocks – after all, it’s logical to give up if there’s no way out. Your recurrent failures then perpetuate your negative feelings, which further reduce your likelihood of success and cause you to avoid challenges that would have led to growth.
In contrast, if you believe your skills can perpetually grow, and that misfortune is temporary and can be fixed, you keep trying to solve problems. When you break through and improve, you further reinforce your positive beliefs, which makes you try even harder next time. Importantly, you actively seek challenges beyond your ability that lead to growth (remember deliberate practice).
Suggestive evidence of long-term effects comes from the original Seligman/Maier shocking experiments. They performed the same experiment on adolescent rats and assessed them five weeks later as adults. The rats without control over shocks grew up timid and less adventurous. In contrast, the rats with control seemed resilient to learned helplessness.
Maier argues that neural rewiring is strengthened by actual success. Just telling someone they can overcome roadblocks isn’t enough – you have to pair the low-level feeling of progress with high-level mindset changes to strengthen the connection between cause and effect.
The duration of learned helplessness is troubling for kids in poverty, who receive a lot of helplessness experiences and not enough mastery experiences. For kids at the more impressionable age, the wiring between failure and mindset can be strengthened repeatedly. Similarly, kids who coast through life without having to overcome adversity can have low grit that makes them crumble under pressure. Both situations can be reinforced by fixed mindset attitudes from parents or teachers – "you’re just no good at this, and you’ll never amount to anything."
How do you increase your optimism and growth mindset?
First, update your beliefs about intelligence and talent. Believe that your brain is plastic, and you have the ability to grow. Believing in the growth mindset is important to actually developing it.
Next, practice optimistic self-talk. (The book says to see a therapist and doesn’t give many examples, but optimistic self-talk may sound something like "great job! You tried hard, which gave you a chance of success." "That didn’t work. How did you approach it, and how can you improve next time?" "Don’t feel bad if you can’t do it yet. You’ll get there.")
A charter school network KIPP has the following Say/Don’t Say statements:
Fixed Mindset
Growth Mindset and Grit
"You’re a natural!"
"You’re a learner!"
"Well, at least you tried."
"That didn’t work. Let’s talk about how you approached it and what might work better."
"Great job! You’re so talented."
"Great job! What’s one thing that could have been even better?"
"This is hard. Don’t feel bad if you can’t do it."
"This is hard. Don’t feel bad if you can’t do it yet."
"Maybe this just isn’t your strength. Don’t worry – you have other things to contribute."
"I have high standards. I’m holding you to them because I know we can reach them together."
Ask for help. Mentors with growth mindsets can coach you through introspection and set goals to push you on the virtuous cycle.
When you default to a fixed mindset, recognize it, and put a label to that persona. Call yourself "Pessimistic Pete" or "Abdicating Aaron."