Chapter 13: Conclusion

Duckworth ends the book with a series of rebuttals to common counterarguments about grit.

Does grit conflict with happiness?

  • No – actually, life satisfaction and grit correlate strongly. Duckworth hasn’t yet studied the happiness of people around gritty people – partners, children, parents. However, she believes her kids appreciate her grittiness and know achieving their goals is better than complacency.

Can you have too much grit, just like you can have too courageous or too honest?

  • Duckworth admits that persevering blindly and without exception isn’t the best default – this can cause you to miss opportunities. Ideally, you swap the activity with something else that is consistent with your ultimate concern.
  • She also argues that by far, most of us need more grit, not less.

Is grit the only thing that matters? No. In reflecting on this, morality is the most important character trait. Duckworth defines three clusters of character:

  • intrapersonal (grit, self-control) – the resume virtues
  • interpersonal (gratitude, social intelligence) – the eulogy virtues
  • intellectual (curiosity, zest)

Each of these clusters predicts different outcomes.

Does encouraging grit set expectations unrealistically high for children? Will they grow up thinking they can be Mozart or Einstein? If they realize they can’t get there, will they give up?

  • The point of growth is not to become Einstein – it’s to be the best you can, and to break past your self-imposed limits. To be gritty is to put one foot in front of the other, day after week after year, to fall down and rise again.